Me and my partner use sex toys and we are proud of it! We do not feel any reason to be ashamed because we understand ourselves and we know that part of being human is to seek pleasure. And like our ancestors before us, we learned to use tools to better our living experience. Why should this be any different with sex, gratification and pleasure! I want to tell you my experience so you too can find pleasure in sex toys.
Finding Your Very First Toy
First time using sex toys or the first purchase is always the hardest. You are shy at first and cannot look or tell the sex shop boy/girl what you need and what you want. The trick is be honest with yourself, know what you want, it does not matter if you’re heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or if you derive pleasure from non mainstream means such as anal, BDSM, bondage, etc. You have your own sexual preference so speak up and make that purchase.
Don’t Be Shy Ask Around
Asking a sex shop girl or boy can be a bit tricky. I mean, how does a grown man say, do you have anything for my anus? But if you think about it, they’re used to it by now, so act like a pro. Tip, try to go online first and view catalogue and shit, or you can go to your favorite porn site or view your favorite porn stars and see what they are using. Yes I am talking about you Sasha Grey and Rebecca Linares, your fleshlights were awesome!
Open it Now, Not Later!
When we first made a purchase we went home and kept the dildo on the top shelf of the corner closet, and there it gathered dust for a few weeks before we got the courage to actually open it up and use the same. Thinking about it now, we realized we were just too ashamed to use the toy and that feeling is just ridiculous because deep down inside (and thank heavens that feeling surfaced) we wanted to use the toy as soon as we bought it.
Reading the Instructions
A word to the wise though: if there are instructions and warnings for use, it would be best to follow the same. Remember, we are looking to pleasure ourselves, not injure ourselves. Tip, whatever toy you buy, when you use it for the first time it would be best to stick with the basics before doing something more extravagant.
Make Sure You Have Fun
Last but not the least, have fun. Wash your toys before and after use. Be adventurous. And then go out and buy some more.
Many times when females don’t get satisfied with natural sex form their sex partners, they often get frustrated in attaining the maximum level of satisfaction. One good way in getting rid of sexual dissatisfaction is by using sex toys that are specifically designed to improve sexual pleasure. However, using any sex toy for the first time could be a very frustrating or painful experience. By carefully following the below mentioned tips, you can greatly reduce your pains and enjoy sexual pleasure derived out of these instruments:
Understanding nature of toys– Every sex toy has its own nature. Dildo, and vaginal flashlights are made in a myriad of models, shapes, and sizes. It is better to choose the one most suitable for your pleasure that you can easily handle.
Wash them up– Any toy to be used specifically for inserting in your body, should be carefully washed first. This is important as toys are made up of plastic and other chemicals that if not washed properly, could cause vaginal infections. Therefore, it is imperative to wash them with warm water and a perfumed soap.
Oil up the toys! – Just like motor oil is important for effective functioning of the motor, similarly oiling up the toy is also important to get maximum sexual satisfaction. Use only oil based lubricants so that they don’t stick with in your vagina.
Get sexually aroused – Just like it is important to warm up for any physical activity, it is equally important to get sexually aroused before using any sex toys or you would not be able to enjoy them.
Do not rush!– Vagina is a sensitive area, and unlike the penis that hardly damages it, if you use sex toys in a roughly manner, you could end up getting your vagina swelled. Do not rush at all. Make sure that the toy is properly lubricated and enjoy it as if you would with your sex partner.
It is hoped that the above tips help your understanding in better using the female sex toys for the first time.