Me and my partner use sex toys and we are proud of it! We do not feel any reason to be ashamed because we understand ourselves and we know that part of being human is to seek pleasure. And like our ancestors before us, we learned to use tools to better our living experience. Why should this be any different with sex, gratification and pleasure! I want to tell you my experience so you too can find pleasure in sex toys.
Know What You Want
First time using sex toys or the first purchase is always the hardest. You are shy at first and cannot look or tell the sex shop boy/girl what you need and what you want. The trick is be honest with yourself, know what you want, it does not matter if you’re heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or if you derive pleasure from non mainstream means such as anal, BDSM, bondage, etc. You have your own sexual preference so speak up and make that purchase.
Where to Look
Nowadays, sex toys can be purchased via the internet, and this is not really a bad way to get started with what you want. Look at the many websites, note down your favorite porn star sex toy, or participate in blogs. But if you can, then it would be best to visit an actual sex store locations so you not only see what you buy, but feel it.
When we first made a purchase we went home and kept the dildo on the top shelf of the corner closet, and there it gathered dust for a few weeks before we got the courage to actually open it up and use the same. Thinking about it now, we realized we were just too ashamed to use the toy and that feeling is just ridiculous because deep down inside (and thank heavens that feeling surfaced) we wanted to use the toy as soon as we bought it.
Reading the Instructions
A word to the wise though: if there are instructions and warnings for use, it would be best to follow the same. Remember, we are looking to pleasure ourselves, not injure ourselves. Tip, whatever toy you buy, when you use it for the first time it would be best to stick with the basics before doing something more extravagant.
It’s All about the Nookie
Last but not the least, have fun. Wash your toys before and after use. Be adventurous. And then go out and buy some more.
Many times when females don’t get satisfied with natural sex form their sex partners, they often get frustrated in attaining the maximum level of satisfaction. One good way in getting rid of sexual dissatisfaction is by using sex toys that are specifically designed to improve sexual pleasure. However, using any sex toy for the first time could be a very frustrating or painful experience. By carefully following the below mentioned tips, you can greatly reduce your pains and enjoy sexual pleasure derived out of these instruments:
Understanding nature of toys– Every sex toy has its own nature. Dildo, and vaginal flashlights are made in a myriad of models, shapes, and sizes. It is better to choose the one most suitable for your pleasure that you can easily handle.
Wash them up– Any toy to be used specifically for inserting in your body, should be carefully washed first. This is important as toys are made up of plastic and other chemicals that if not washed properly, could cause vaginal infections. Therefore, it is imperative to wash them with warm water and a perfumed soap.
Proper lubrication – The bad thing about sex toys is that they are not self-lubricating in nature, unlike the penis and the vagina. It is of pivotal importance to use as much lubrication as possible to make sure that there is minimum amount of friction while you play with them. Many dildos and vagina flashlights do not easily penetrate, due to which is important to use an oil based lubricant like perfumed hair oil.
Warm up – Have you ever enjoyed sex without getting warmed up? I bet you haven’t. As a result, it is important to get sexual aroused and warm up before using the sex toys so that you can gain maximum sexual satisfaction. Feel relaxed, as time is all yours!
Keep it slow– Ladies, police isn’t going to catch you! Feel relaxed, lubricate the toy and insert it slowly. Do not rush in inserting the entire dildo in any way or you would not gain maximum sexual satisfaction. Play with it any way you like. Deep, shallow, fast or slow, as long as you are aroused, you would enjoy!
It is hoped that the above tips help your understanding in better using the female sex toys for the first time.