Me and my partner use sex toys and we are proud of it! We do not feel any reason to be ashamed because we understand ourselves and we know that part of being human is to seek pleasure. And like our ancestors before us, we learned to use tools to better our living experience. Why should this be any different with sex, gratification and pleasure! I want to tell you my experience so you too can find pleasure in sex toys.
Know What You Want
First time using sex toys or buying your first sex toy is like propositioning your first man or woman. You are all sweaty, can’t look the person in the eye and your tongue decides to take a freakin vacation. The best advice for first time buyers is, GET IT OVER WITH. Who cares if your first purchase is crappy, it will still be a memorable experience.
Where to Look
Nowadays, sex toys can be purchased via the internet, and this is not really a bad way to get started with what you want. Look at the many websites, note down your favorite porn star sex toy, or participate in blogs. But if you can, then it would be best to visit an actual sex store locations so you not only see what you buy, but feel it.
Open it Now, Not Later!
Some people have gone thru the trouble of buying a sex toy but refuse to use the same after the purchase. This happens more often than you think, with excuses ranging from "I do not have the time", "I am too shy to use it", or "I feel disgusted with myself". For crying out loud you bought the damn thing so use it!
Follow the Instructions
A word to the wise though: if there are instructions and warnings for use, it would be best to follow the same. Remember, we are looking to pleasure ourselves, not injure ourselves. Tip, whatever toy you buy, when you use it for the first time it would be best to stick with the basics before doing something more extravagant.
It’s All about the Nookie
The last and probably the most important tip for first time sex toy users is to forget about what society thinks of your sexual preference. Think about you and/or your partner’s sexual gratification. Pleasure yourself with your first purchase, clean it before and after use; and don’t forget, there are more where that came from.
Sex toys provide you with an excellent feeling to enjoy virtual sex without getting infected with AIDS or any other STDs. Sex is a biological need for every man and woman, which is literally impossible to avoid. Many males & females do not get their sexual desires fulfilled only by having sex, due to which, they rely on using sex toys. These instruments satisfy their body and are normally of very attractive looks. These instruments are known as sex toys. It is your first time, or you are a veteran user, these tips would definitely help you in overcoming your fears with sexual instruments:
Understand the nature of the sex toy – At times, dildos could scare you when you open unpack them for the first time. Moreover, companies don’t even take the liberty of providing an essential training manual on how to use one.
Always wash before usage– Since toys are made of plastic, there are chances of their condemnation using dangerous chemicals. It is advisable to always wash them in warm water with baking soda, or soap to get rid of all chemicals present on their surfaces. This would help you in getting complete peace of mind by using these toys.
Lubricate them as much as you can– Unlike the vagina and the penis, which are self-lubricating in nature, sex toys need artificial oil based lubrication to give you maximum sexual pleasure. It is compulsory to lubricate these toys as per your requirements to gain maximum sexual pleasure and reach the ultimate level of orgasms.
Warm up – Have you ever enjoyed sex without getting warmed up? I bet you haven’t. As a result, it is important to get sexual aroused and warm up before using the sex toys so that you can gain maximum sexual satisfaction. Feel relaxed, as time is all yours!
Take it real slow – Do not rush entering the toy in your vagina. Remember, the complete freedom to control dildos and other sex toys, is in your hands. Take deep breaths, and push inside slowly, perhaps half an inch at a time. The deeper you breath, the better the chances of getting aroused and enjoying fun.
There is no general rule of thumb, when it comes to using vibrating sex toys. The key is to have fun, relax and listen to your body.