Me and my partner use sex toys and we are proud of it! We do not feel any reason to be ashamed because we understand ourselves and we know that part of being human is to seek pleasure. And like our ancestors before us, we learned to use tools to better our living experience. Why should this be any different with sex, gratification and pleasure! I want to tell you my experience so you too can find pleasure in sex toys.
Know What You Want
First time using sex toys or the first purchase is always the hardest. You are shy at first and cannot look or tell the sex shop boy/girl what you need and what you want. The trick is be honest with yourself, know what you want, it does not matter if you’re heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or if you derive pleasure from non mainstream means such as anal, BDSM, bondage, etc. You have your own sexual preference so speak up and make that purchase.
Don’t Be Shy Ask Around
Nowadays, sex toys can be purchased via the internet, and this is not really a bad way to get started with what you want. Look at the many websites, note down your favorite porn star sex toy, or participate in blogs. But if you can, then it would be best to visit an actual sex store locations so you not only see what you buy, but feel it.
You Need To USE IT!
Some people have gone thru the trouble of buying a sex toy but refuse to use the same after the purchase. This happens more often than you think, with excuses ranging from "I do not have the time", "I am too shy to use it", or "I feel disgusted with myself". For crying out loud you bought the damn thing so use it!
Always Read the Instructions
A sex toy maybe a toy but it is something that you will use to probe some of the more sensitive parts of yourself and others. That is why it is very important to use the same in a manner that it was made for and never for something it was not. Okay, you can stretch things a bit and be creative but always follow the "not to do" portion and pay attention to the warning labels.
Make Sure You Have Fun
The last and probably the most important tip for first time sex toy users is to forget about what society thinks of your sexual preference. Think about you and/or your partner’s sexual gratification. Pleasure yourself with your first purchase, clean it before and after use; and don’t forget, there are more where that came from.
Many times when females don’t get satisfied with natural sex form their sex partners, they often get frustrated in attaining the maximum level of satisfaction. One good way in getting rid of sexual dissatisfaction is by using sex toys that are specifically designed to improve sexual pleasure. However, using any sex toy for the first time could be a very frustrating or painful experience. By carefully following the below mentioned tips, you can greatly reduce your pains and enjoy sexual pleasure derived out of these instruments:
Understanding nature of toys– Every sex toy has its own nature. Dildo, and vaginal flashlights are made in a myriad of models, shapes, and sizes. It is better to choose the one most suitable for your pleasure that you can easily handle.
Clean them up! – Whether it is a dildo or a vagina torch light, it is essential to clean them in luke warm water with some baking soda so that any or all chemicals could be removed off them and you can use them easily to enjoy sexual pleasures.
Oil up the toys! – Just like motor oil is important for effective functioning of the motor, similarly oiling up the toy is also important to get maximum sexual satisfaction. Use only oil based lubricants so that they don’t stick with in your vagina.
Warm up – Have you ever enjoyed sex without getting warmed up? I bet you haven’t. As a result, it is important to get sexual aroused and warm up before using the sex toys so that you can gain maximum sexual satisfaction. Feel relaxed, as time is all yours!
Do not rush!– Vagina is a sensitive area, and unlike the penis that hardly damages it, if you use sex toys in a roughly manner, you could end up getting your vagina swelled. Do not rush at all. Make sure that the toy is properly lubricated and enjoy it as if you would with your sex partner.
Work out till you are done – Keep using the couples sex toy to your desired level of satisfaction. It is advisable not to exceed a single moment when you start feeling pain or swelling in or near your vagina